Deciding you want a divorce isn’t an easy decisions to make. However, after you’ve made up your mind, you’ll have to talk to your spouse about it. Suggesting divorce can seem like an impossible task. However, there are ways you can make it go smoothly and get it done…
Suggesting Divorce: Telling Your Spouse
Practice what to say
One thing you don’t want to do is try suggesting divorce without a plan. Going into that discussion blind is going to make it harder for you to make your case to your partner. This could cause you to doubt yourself and your desire to divorce, even if it’s the best choice for you both.
Therefore, try to practice in advance what you’re going to say. Most people like to keep their statements short and to the point. They’ll tell their partner what’s been bothering them, why they want to divorce, and why they think it’s the best choice. Practicing can help you make sure you say what you want when it comes time to talk to your spouse.
Pick a good time
Timing is also important for suggesting divorce. Picking a bad time can make your efforts much harder than they need to be. For example, if you try and tell your spouse on a time-crunch, then you won’t be able to explain everything you need too. If you pick a time after something has already upset your spouse, then their reaction could be even more extreme.
Instead, try to pick a time where you and your spouse can sit down and discuss this matter properly. It also helps to do so when they aren’t busy or just finishing something like work. Be sure to talk to them privately as well in a neutral location, like at your house, rather than in public.
Listen to your spouse
One thing to remember when suggesting divorce is to give your spouse a chance to respond. It could be the case where your spouse agrees with your assessment, and sees divorce as the best decision overall. Or, they may have a very negative reaction, in which they reject what you’re saying or throw accusations at you.
Still, by listening to them, even if it’s unpleasant, you’re basically showing them two things. Firstly, that you’re willing to hear what they have to say and consider their side. Secondly, you’re also showing them you’re committed to your decision. Hearing them out can help them accept what’s happening, and begin to prepare for the divorce itself.
