When you go through a divorce, it can be difficult to jump back into the dating pool for some. However, for others, it might be their first move after signing those papers. Everyone copes with a divorce differently, and a rebound relationship might be just what you need. But, it’s important that you make sure you’re practicing healthy dating behaviors, and that you’re fully ready when you get back out there. After all, you’ve just gone through a serious ordeal— and it takes some recovering. Therefore, before you rebound… read this article.
Rebound Relationship: Am I Jumping in Too Early?
No two people recover at the same time…
It can be easy to judge someone who has gotten out of a relationship— and is dating again two weeks later. However, everyone recovers in their own time, and every marriage ends in a different way. There are instances where people file for divorce after struggling for years, and then there are others who file for divorce very suddenly when things aren’t working. There is no right way to uncouple. Furthermore, there is no right way, or time, to move on. Therefore, it’s important to understand what a rebound relationship is based on the why and not the when.
What qualifies as a rebound relationship?
A rebound relationship comes along usually right after a major separation. The person who has divorced finds a new partner quickly— and before they have taken the time to heal. Therefore, the relationship is often quickly passing, unstable, and unhealthfully dependent. All of these issues root from the fact that you’re still struggling from the trauma of divorce. Instead of being a stable, healthy relationship— they often are a coping mechanism, and a way to forget the pain.
The main problem with a rebound relationship
We scratched the surface in a section above. In short, the problem with rebound relationships is simply that you are not ready for another emotional commitment yet. You’re still attached in some way to your ex. Furthermore, you’re still healing from the loss. No matter how good the person you’re with now is— it can be difficult to treat them fairly, with kindness, and to give yourself to a relationship. Please remember that every person will be different, and recovering from a separation has no set time limit.
