Adjusting to being a co-parent isn’t always an easy task. While you might handle the day-to-day fine, what about those more special events? Co-parenting events can require a bit more finesse to pull off. However, the results are well worth it for your kids…
Co-Parenting Events: How To Pull It Off
Discuss things beforehand
It’s important to talk to each other before doing any kind of co-parenting events. If you just show up to an event without letting your ex know, it can quickly cause them to get angry and cause tension. This can end up getting in the way of the event itself, and only ends up hurting your kids in the end.
So before any of these events, talk to your ex about figuring out some plans for them. This can be who should take the kids, what times you might be able to arrive at, and other similar things. Being on the same page makes it easier for the both of you to go to the event without incident.
Stay focused on your kids
If you and your ex struggle to get along, then you might not think co-parenting events are possible. However, in these situations, it’s important to remember that you’re not doing it for them. Instead, you’re doing it for the sake of your kids.
These events aren’t the time to try and pick fights with your ex. Instead, keep your focus on your kids. Celebrate their achievements or accomplishments, and keep it positive. Even just sitting next to each other can show your kids that your attention is on them.
Keep the long-term in mind
If you’re worried about co-parenting events, you might just want to not go to them if you can help it. After all, that way you avoid conflict and your kids get to enjoy the event. However, keep the long-term impact of that in mind. Constantly avoiding your kids events could really hurt your relationship with them.
Therefore, it’s best to make the attempt to go whenever you can. Even if you’re worried about an argument, it’s important for your kids to see you still care and want to be involved. If arguments do occur, focus on de-escalating things and remember why you’re there in the first place.
