When it comes to parenting through divorce, there’s no easy way to do it. In most cases, one parent lives with the children full time, as the other moves out and manages parenting from a distance. For either parent, staying connected with your kids during divorce can be difficult. So here’s a few tips to help you be there for your child, even in your time of need.
Staying Connected: How to Be There For Your Children During Divorce
Be Active
One of the best things you can do for staying connected with your child is to be active. But what does it mean to be active in your child’s life? Begin with asking them about school and any new things they have going on their life. For the most part, young children will be excited to share stories and events about their day. Learn of any new sports or extracurricular activities they are doing. Then try to make as many events as possible. Being there physically will help your child feel connected even through the trauma of divorce.
Find a New Hobby
Another great method for staying connected with your kids through divorce is to find a hobby you can do together. Depending on how many children you have, it can be difficult to manage a hobby with each one. However, doing so will allow you to bond one-on-one, which can be a great way to feel connected. It can also create a new tradition, instead of just the ones you had before divorce.
Be Understanding
In many cases, divorce can do a number on kids’ emotions. For the most part, they won’t understand why and what is happening. They’ll feel a loss of security due to the drastic changes occurring in their life. So it’s not uncommon for kids to experience behavioral issues throughout the divorce process. If you allow it to, this can drive a wedge and cause a disconnect between you and your children. So be understanding to the fact that they are going through a lot and may act out. Instead of fighting the behavior, try to understand it where it’s coming from. This can help you see it as more of a reason for staying connected to your child.
