A divorce is always difficult. Whether you and your ex are collaborating through it, or it’s a bit nastier than that— there are always a lot of emotions involved. But, at the end of the day, you just want to make it through your divorce, sanity intact… right? So, we’ve come up with a few ways to make your divorce a happier divorce. It might seem impossible, but if you put these few things first, you might just find yourself a little better off in the long run. A divorce will always be difficult, but it doesn’t have to be an entirely negative experience…
Happier Divorce: Steps to Stress-Free Separation
Find Friends That Are Going Through the Same Thing
As you go through a divorce, it’s normal to experience loneliness. First of all, you are separating from your partner; someone you have been sharing your life with for quite some time now. It’s easy to fall into a rut and withdraw from the people around you. However, many of them understand more than you think. Whether you’re feeling down about being alone, separating your children’s parents, or you’re frightened of what’s to come— you likely have a friend who’s been through the same thing. Whether they went through this themselves, were a child of divorce, or etc. You’re not alone in this.
Put your story into generic words
No matter how much you try avoid it, people are going to ask about your divorce. From family friends, to family members, to nosey acquaintances— they’ll all want to know details. But, it’s up to you on what exactly you share. However, putting into words all on the spot can be pretty difficult, and you might end up oversharing because you didn’t know what to say. So, figure out an easy generic way to put people off of it. A few words to satisfy them, and move on. Or, if you’re not too keen on the sharing, just tell them you don’t want to go into it at this time.
Stop Looking at Your Ex’s Social Media
One sure way to stay miserable during your divorce, is by checking your ex’s social media accounts. Whether you’re reminiscing, checking in on their activity now, or just curious— stop. Ultimately, thinking back on these things is not going to help you rebuild and focus on yourself. Instead, you’re focusing on them, and maybe even making your proceedings harder by developing difficult feelings over what you find. Look forward, after all, you have a lot to look forward to.
Embrace the ending
When you’re going through a divorce, there is one undeniable ending in sight— your being single once again. Whether you initiated the divorce, or not, look forward to this! You have a unique opportunity as a grown person to redefine yourself and what you like to do. Take up yoga, cooking classes, painting… whatever you want. Your limitations are much lesser now, and will being free wasn’t exactly your plan at this point in time— embrace it.
When it comes down to a divorce, you can ultimately choose to wallow in it, or pull yourself up and start moving on. It’s not easy, and some days will be worse than others, but finding ways to make for a happier divorce can make for a happier you, too. We wish you luck as you move forward with your divorce, and offer our services if you might need them.
